I heartily second DanceQueen's post. I haven't said much along those lines, because you can really only take it a day at a time, but it will be hell for the next year at least. I suppose there are degrees of hell, but everyone suffers and there's no getting around that. Hang in.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012