Mockers, that is fabulous! The listen poem is so true, I think we all are guilty to doing that to husbands, friends, kids..things to remember in all conversations.
I think you are right in that it will take time to change the old habits. To check angry outbursts and discover new ways to get your feelings across, and probably in a much more productive manner than before. Once it becomes second nature, it won't be so much of an effort. Probably the same concept as eating healthy....a pain when you begin, but second nature once you get the hang of it (or so I've read, right now Halloween treats seem to make three square meals for me!)
It will so be worth it to make the changes, and his behavior will reflect upon those changes. Good luck with your mom. And thanks for the visits over on my thread. A long road to go for me, but you provide inspiration.
