On my part I've been trying to blend DBing with working on suggestions from MB's - looking for those emotional needs in W I can fulfil to get myself back in "credit" and absolutely banishing love busters.
But not sure at all if this is paying off.
Ali - its interesting that you refer to a feeling of "inadequacy" in your ex ...this might chime with something from the MB philosophy...that one of a man's primary emotional needs is for "admiration" and respect -it certainly is one of mine and during the latter part of our R I didn't feel this from my W, which led to a sort of negative / downward spiral...
Have you read Harley's His needs, her needs-(or something similar)?
