Geez, they locked my thread so I had no pipe jokes going on. Do they have no sense of humor?? Oh well just a quick recap: Ex told me last night that he plans on moving in with skank in July. I said that is great for you, maybe not so great for the kids. In all of his wisdom his argument was that it doesn't matter what he does or who he is with, he is still Daddy.
Crash and burn...please. I am not so nice about him right now. Sorry.
But he isn't the focus of my life just a bit annoying like a bug in the summer. You spray yourself to ward them off but they still manage to find the one place you missed! lol
Another day anyhow. Hope you all have your taxes done because I have been getting lots of calls these past couple of days for needed documents or information. Make it a good one.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Oh believe me I KNOW, it is that pathetic sap calling himself their father that doesn't get it. I just want to help my kids get through this but ex thinks pushing all of this stuff on them is the way to do it. Facing reality is ex's thoughts on it. Funny, ex can't face reality but expects his kids to accept this situation because of who he is.
I find it best not to get myself to tangled up in it. For me, I could care less where he lives, for my kids that is a whole other ball of wax.
Any ideas how to get this actually through his fogged out brain would be appreciated.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Well, you DO have control over your schedule. I wouldn't change it. ESPECIALLY if he is going to move in with her. They need the same routine as much as possible. If he wants to change it, he can take it back to court. Until then, it's a done deal.
Focus on your life with the kids. Talk with the kids about how you feel about the issues with him living with her. For example, if he is living with someone that he is not married to, and you believe that is not right, tell them why. Use it as a learning experience. I think they already know he made bad choices...leaving his wife was a bad choice...they can understand that what he is doing is another bad choice. If they don't like her there, they can tell him that, and they SHOULD. And, if he gets mad at them, give them some words they can use like "I need to tell you my feelings, Dad. My feelings are never wrong."
I haven't agreed to him making these changes at all. he tries to get the kids to think it is a good idea when we all know that it isn't. I do have control of that and I know it bothers him to no end. I suspect he may borrow even more money to try to take this back to court. I don't know.
I mean he came up with the schedule using our counties guidelines and now because he misses the kids wants to play with stuff. I don't mind special occasion days that he may pick up but this is just nuts!
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
That is my goal. I remember a couple of weeks ago ex saying something like "the court won't know any different unless one of tattles to them. They don't care about this trivial stuff." I think he only wants to make changes because he is moving and doesn't want it to be a hassel for him.
Granted if I ever move away that will be another can of beans we will have to contend with. Right now I am just talking about what we know is going on.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
When it rains it pours...and I need an umbrella. Last night while taking a bath, I went to turn the water off and it wouldn't. So had to shut off the whole house. I got the faucet down to where you take the cartridge out but this doesn't look like the normal cartridge. Hummmm.
Then this morning I wake up to find my two girls sick. They have been coughing off and on but otherwise ok. D8 had rosy cheeks last night right before she went to bed and looked soooo sleepy. I gave her some motrin to help her sleep and this morning her head was still clammy.
I have called in to work and called the plumber and have the girls laying down. Hopefully the road to recovery will be quick.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Geez, Kat. Talk about double or triple whammy. I hope your kids bounce back quickly. "SuperMom mode" kicks in fast when my son is sick. It's amazing what we can do when it becomes necessary in order to take care of our kids.
