Thanks so much for the post. No, I have not had any other contact with H. Just like a good DB'er I don't call him. But I got an e-mail from counsellor to say that since we both contacted him separately he wants us to go in to see him together.
The other night when we had out big talk, I tried to open up the convo regarding us, testing the water. I said, I am open to talk about my growth since this happened, my changes or we can talk about you and he shut it right down with, 'I am just concerned with the kids and my relationship right now' or something to that effect. He is still not ready to talk about us so I don't know if he will in front of the C. Looks like my H's schedule is very tight though and counsellor meeting won't happen till the first week of May.
My parents are coming in tomorrow night for a three week visit. Can't wait to see them, I used my miles to bring them here. Kids are very excited. I am sure H will feel awkward when he sees them as his last convo with my dad was this time last year and my dad told him how much he loved him and considers him his son and his whole message was one of love (my dad must be a closet DB'er). Anyway, I am sure my H will have a lot of conflicting emotions when seeing them again. My mom will keep her mouth shut as usual because she thinks he is no good and don't think he will come back. But she won't say anything in front of me because she knows it will give me pain so she keeps it inside but I know her well. God bless my parents, they are my rocks.
Me:39 H:40 S:9 D:7 First Bomb ONS:June 07 Second Bomb OW: March 08 Separated: March 08 M:15 yrs T:18 yrs H deep into A with OW Achieved ACCEPTANCE May 30, 09
