Questions

[antlers]

You're experiencing the same emotions that we all experience. It's a hard thing. It's counter-intuitive...to do the things that our brains tell us to do instead of doing the things that our hearts tell us to do. But we've got to do it! If you do something for you, like getting your hair done, then do it for YOU. Your WAS isn't going to give you what you want...not right now anyway. Forget it. They are 'out there' and they aren't thinking about anybody but themselves. I'm not knocking them for it...it's just a fact! They are 'in the fog'. They think they know what they want...but they don't. They are confused. All they know is that they didn't want to be in that relationship...the way that it was...anymore. We've got to work on ourselves...we've got to become better people, better parents, and better spouses. Just know this...it ain't over...not by a long shot! Our emotions get the best of us often, and we feel despair. We all know what you're feeling, because we feel/have felt the same way as you. Stay here and read and learn and talk to others. You'll get a new perspective.