I'm just wondering how others are experiencing year 2 of separation/divorce? I actually find the second year harder than the first! When you first separate you feel like a soldier going into combat. You know what you have to do to survive and you set your mind to doing it. You've seen what has happened to others who haven't buckled down and you don't want to go there! You work hard at keepin' on keepin' on. There are all sorts of practical considerations to sort out, a new life to build and people are aware of your sitch and check in with you often. In year two it's like coming back from combat and having to deal with all the post traumatic stress that surfaces after doing what you've had to do to survive! Sometimes now I look at my life and think "this is it", the new adventure is done and what's left is what's left. Although I feel this hole inside I really don't know how to describe it and people don't really inquire anymore. I've had to deal with feelings of inadaquacy, undesirability (is that a word?) and the air of confidence I used to have has taken a bit of a beating. I don't want my wife but I don't feel I can be with anyone else. I'm in a kind of limbo. Yes, year two is a strange one and I know it's a process. Anyone else? Just to add, my church is looking to start a small group for separated/divorced people after my making the suggestion to the Pastor recently. I think that would be immensely helpful...if anyone else signs up!
