That sucks. A whole other level of mess that you'll have to forgive her for if she comes back.
Your W shouldn't dare be surprised when your daughter decides to go her own way one day. I'm sure she'll have no sense of obligation to your W when she's an old lady and in need of support. And, I'm sure she'll spend a lifetime working through abandonment issues. Lovely.
This isn't my place, I know, but I really get upset about the kids in these situations.
Be sure to give your daughter extra love and attention through this time, AFWAW. She doesn't deserve this anguish. And, of course, I believe that it does NOT help to disrespect your W with your words/actions through this time. Just stand proud and be a noble man throughout this journey. By doing so, you'll teach your daughter how great a man and a person can be.
