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mindfull #1752612 04/16/09 12:42 PM
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Sister..

Stop it..stop it now..read nothing into his response.

If you allow anyone here to put you the coaster with assumptions/guesses/hypothesis then i swear I'll drive up there before Saturday to personally deliver a 2x4..

in the words of my bro from Memphis...this "is what it is"

stop trying to read into, expect or think about what he may be doing, feeling, thinking..

no expectations, no assumptions...common sense and calm should come over you...and let him see the woman you have become...

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Originally Posted By: Kalni
Hi SMW,
you sense he is sending you a message of somekind? Maybe he is trying to set the "atmosphere" like "I am not in a good state so dont expect us to be living in a bliss when I get back" or something?

Whatever it is, and it could be nothing, just as he says he maybe fed up with that ship, you need to keep your mood, your approach, your optimism and your confidence.

Remember all the DB basic rules and follow them and with your faith and strength, things will go just fine.

Our Greek Orthodox Easter is this Sunday, Saturday is a big day for us. Saturday midnight is the moment of the miracle. I will be thinking of you...
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{{{{{Hon}}}}

I don't know if he is sending a message or thinking out loud, or baiting to see if I would say something like--"Well, back then you weren't having an affair and didn't walk out on your family-maybe its your choices that are making you unhappy." Trust me, I know not to say it--Bad DB, but the thought ran right through my mind when I read the email.

I am not going to lose me. God and I worked too hard to get me here.

My sister's first set of ex inlaws are Greek Orthodox. The churches are so beautiful!They gave my D17--a long time ago-- a beautiful little picture of the virgin Mother and Jesus for her 1st Communion. She still keeps it up in her room to this day.

Thank you for being here for me. I know things are going to get interesting, but I am as prepared as I can be. God walks with me and He is all I need.

Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~
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the thought ran right through my mind when I read the email


SMW,

Come on, Beautiful Lady! Where do you think that thought came from?

Corinthians 10:5 (New International Version)

We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.

Be Strong!


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mindfull #1752625 04/16/09 01:04 PM
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MB--

Thanks for the perspective. You are right, he did say this place. I know the two chiefs he spends the most time with are both married and one is a virtual friend of mine. Interesting that he is still acting married there.

The enemy cannot defeat me. I am still peaceful, just nervous. Almost like first date nerves, but a little more.

I am good, honest. Just busy finishing things up around the house. Little last minute things--none of which take a lot of time, but will all make a difference in making the house more of a home.

I know you are all with me and I am so grateful and thankful that the Lord brought you all into my life, even if only for this season.

Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~
SMW


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Originally Posted By: M from Tennessee
Sister..

Stop it..stop it now..read nothing into his response.

If you allow anyone here to put you the coaster with assumptions/guesses/hypothesis then i swear I'll drive up there before Saturday to personally deliver a 2x4..

in the words of my bro from Memphis...this "is what it is"

stop trying to read into, expect or think about what he may be doing, feeling, thinking..

no expectations, no assumptions...common sense and calm should come over you...and let him see the woman you have become...


Mike--

Honestly, I did not get all emotional like I did over the Christmas emails. It is really the first email series that expressed unhappiness. Yeah, he said he missed the kids, but never that HE was actually unhappy.

I am not on the coaster. The nerves are not much different than they would be at the end of any other deployment. Anticipation, wondering if he will like the changes in me, the kids, the house, etc. This just added a new aspect to the nerves.

I feel like the Lord is picking at his brain and he might be starting to listen to Him.


I will be the old, new me on the pier. He will notice. And God is my strength through all of this. I am leaning on Him.

Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~
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Originally Posted By: FaithfulH
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the thought ran right through my mind when I read the email


SMW,

Come on, Beautiful Lady! Where do you think that thought came from?

Corinthians 10:5 (New International Version)

We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.

Be Strong!


FH--

Well, the thought that came through after was that God was prodding DH to really think about what he is doing. So, I guess I caught it and turned it to the Lord.

I truly believe it is Holy Spirit conviction and the voice of the Lord telling DH to go home. Is he listening? I don't know and probably won't for a long time, but the white noise in his head that he has been blocking God out with might be dimming to a level where DH is finally hearing something other than the lies of the enemy.

Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~
SMW


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Hey SMW... good luck for Saturday.. it IS interesting timing that he returns tommorow, as Venus goes direct!.. but then, if you have been reading, all the stars say that its either time to surrender and give in to love, or say goodbye forever (poetic licence there!).. so it CAN go either way. I still dont know what decision my ex will arrive at, but he did go away for over a week, as Venus prepared to go direct and is likely to return to Cornwall, also on Saturday, with his decision. I am unlikely to hear that straight away though.. for us Pisceans, watch Saturday for signs but also, more so the 22nd April, when Venus conjuncts Mars and Uranus and the Moon, all in Pisces!! I have read reports which say it could be true love, or that hearts will be broken.. so as someone here says, please keep your head.. but remain calm and confident also.

I will be watching your sitch as you are watching mine for signs of progress this weekend ! I hope things work out for you, its especially hard when there are children involved I feel.

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Hey SMW - I'm praying for a safe return of your sailor and a turning of his heart toward you.

I was wondering if you could give me some more details of your fast over on my thread when you get a minute.


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Originally Posted By: AliSuddenly
Hey SMW... good luck for Saturday.. it IS interesting timing that he returns tommorow, as Venus goes direct!.. but then, if you have been reading, all the stars say that its either time to surrender and give in to love, or say goodbye forever (poetic licence there!).. so it CAN go either way. I still dont know what decision my ex will arrive at, but he did go away for over a week, as Venus prepared to go direct and is likely to return to Cornwall, also on Saturday, with his decision. I am unlikely to hear that straight away though.. for us Pisceans, watch Saturday for signs but also, more so the 22nd April, when Venus conjuncts Mars and Uranus and the Moon, all in Pisces!! I have read reports which say it could be true love, or that hearts will be broken.. so as someone here says, please keep your head.. but remain calm and confident also.

I will be watching your sitch as you are watching mine for signs of progress this weekend ! I hope things work out for you, its especially hard when there are children involved I feel.

Al xxx


Gotcha! I am calm and confident. I know I am the better choice and DH is the one who will lose out if he does not change his mind. While I do not want anyone to be hurt, I hope it is the OW who loses out in the long run and not my kids and I. My husband is not a free man and the sooner she realizes it and goes away, the better for all of us, including her.

Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~
SMW


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Originally Posted By: mishka422
Hey SMW - I'm praying for a safe return of your sailor and a turning of his heart toward you.

I was wondering if you could give me some more details of your fast over on my thread when you get a minute.


Thanks for the prayers, Mish! I answered your fasting questions on your thread. Hope it helps.

Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~
SMW


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Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through
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