I think the negative thinking is going to creep in a lot over the next few weeks, it has to be natural, all the pent up emotions from the last months just finally rearing their head.
I love how you looked at it from his point of view, how very smart and a good way to stop the negative thinking.
There was a technique posted somewhere about having a visual to go to when you feel the negative thoughts. I know there is the stop sign and such, but this had you pick a place that you enjoy and visualize being there and calming yourself down. I pick the beach and watching the ocean. I try to visualize that when I'm feeling horrible and that gives me a sense of calm and enough time for the rational side of my brain to take over.
Forgiveness is hard. They have really put us through a lot and I suspect they don't even realize the extent of it. Will filling them in on it get us closer to any of our goals? Maybe on our 50th wedding anniversary we can really give it to them---provdied they have the hearing aide turned off!
The postives are great, sounds like he is fully commiting to moving back in and being a family again.
Don't forget you in all this, continue to do the things you have been doing that are just for you. So easy to forget ourselves when we are worrying about everyone else!
