I've been reading more of the Love without Hurt book. I'm up to page 240. It's pretty scary how it really walks through the craziness I went through. I didn't realize my emotional insecurities made me hurt my wife so much.
I know there were things that I did or didn't do that hurt her. But I see how my controlling behavior driven by my own core hurt really drove a stake through her as well. I'm still struggling with compassion. I read it but just have a problem putting it into practice.
I'm tempted to suggest it as a read for my wife. The why isn't just for myself, but the first half of the book could help her. Is that just dumb? Would that be pursuing?
I wouldn't suggest she read any books right now. You keep reading 'em though...and DB'n. She's in a different place right now. Work on you, and try to get stronger. You have an advantage over many of us in that, you had access to all of this good information about DB'n 'before' you're wife moved out! Take advantage of it. Most of us made nothing but mistakes for quite awhile after the separations were announced.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
