What is the RIGHT THING TO DO? What would God Himself have me do, if He were standing right here in front of me?", and to put my kids first, me second and my wife last in this. Otherwise, there might be something that benefits my boys, and is also "the right thing to do," but I stubbornly refuse to do it/agree to it because it somehow benefits my wife.
Now this is where I get lost. I agree with - "if it benefits the kids then go with it" BUT, are you not only looking at right now. Who is to say that if you agree to some finacial settlement today that tommorrow OM wont become the real beneficiary. Ypu know your wife best , I know what it feels like to have OM and I can tell you, that the kids dont come first OFTEN when you are all caught up in that ' new love '.
Puppy just write down every possibility and every possible outcome of every posibility. Do not rely on rational or clear future thinking on wifes part. You have to think of how to protect your childrens future.
