PM Thread #5 - Hope new plan works

[Can it work]

Hi PM

It was quite sad to hear you sounding so negative at the beginning of that last post. Luckily, I see by the end of the post that you still have the right frame of mind.

You should stop trying to guess or speculate on why your H has tried to arrange this meeting. Has he said any more to you about the reconcilliation? You seem to have a lot more information about his opinion of it since your previous posts. Was it him who told you about trying to set up the meeting and that he didn't want to speak about the 2 of you at all? If so, I'm truly sorry to hear that.

One thing I will say is that regardless if some counsellor tells him it's ok for him to allow you to move away with his children, it's still not going to stop him hurting further down the line as you've pointed out. Because of this, I can't believe any counsellor worth their salt would ever validate something like that. At the end of the day he has to make his decision. Nobody else can make it for him.

Also, if this new information has come straight from him it may just be a knee-jerk reaction. It's not been very long since you gave him the choice after all. As I said earlier, you backed him in to a corner and it looks as though he's starting to put up a fight. That may not be a bad thing. Do you think that it's a possibility he might be arranging this meeting to try and talk you out of moving? He may think that a counsellor will convince you that keeping the kids around their Dad is a good thing? Obviously that's just idle speculation on my part but I can't help thinking that there could be any number of reasons for this.

Don't lose hope PM. Nobody knows what's around the corner. Everyone on here can see you deserve every happiness. Take care.

Kev