When the Teacher Becomes the Student

[sandycay]

Hey Puppy,

I am sorry that it came to this. I do want to add that some information that is relavent in my state but not be in yours. It seems like we are problaby in the same boat as you are financially, without debt. Just mortagage and bills. That said, my H, when H moved out last year and was paying for everything still. I worked part time off and on in our marriage too. Anyway, when I contacted an attorney she said that if I could wait around as long as possible in this arrangement that it would be very good for me. It serves as status quo. What that meant was that if H was going to hand me $6200 a month and still maintain another residence and afford everything then come 6 months or a year later whenever he decided to D and then he might ask for a lower monthly amount the judge would look at what he had been paying and probably award me closer to what he had been paying thus status quo.

I am only telling you this because you have talked about moving out and continuing to pay everything. I don't want you to set yourself up and find yourself in that position.

Disclaimer:

Before anyone thinks I would have agreed to that I didn't or wouldn't have. I wanted to sell the house move into something more afforadable and easier and that way giving him more money so he could have a better place to live than he did. I also agreed to go back to school for 4 years so I could further my education therefore, assist better in supporting the children here and then for college. I only asked for 5 years of support to pay for school and health insurance so I could get back on my feet. My H worked hard for his place in life and I certainly don't need more than my fair share and I felt I was always more than able to work it just worked better for me to home most of the time due to his traveling work schedule. We weren't dealing with any major personality disorders though.

For those that might be confused by the signature line... we didn't D and H has been back for almost a year.

Puppy,

Just check and see if this is an issue in your state.


Blessings and Prayers for your whole family.