Other than this board, the books, and the DB coach, I hadn't been speaking with a family/IC counselor. I finally printed out the local list of family counselors and even tried to get a name out of the DB folks for a DB-centric counselor (no luck).
Given your IC experience, DC, I'm going to call on Thursday to start interviewing local family counselors to start my IC. If W ever comes around, good for her, but me first.