So, so you made a lot of mistakes Walked down the road a little sideways Cracked a brick when you hit the wall Yeah, you've had a pocketful of regrets Pulled you down faster than a sunset Hey, it happens to us all When the cold, hard rain just won't quit And you can't see your way out of it
You find your faith that's been lost and shaken You take back what's been taken Get on your knees and dig down deep You can do what you think is impossible Keep on believing, don't give in It'll come and make you whole again It always will, it always does Love is unstoppable
Love, it can weather any storm Bring you back to being born, again Oh, it's the helping hand when you needed it most The lighthouse shining on the coast That never goes dim When your heart is full of doubt And you think that there's no way out
You find your faith that's been lost and shaken You take back what's been taken Get on your knees and dig down deep You can do what you think is impossible Keep on believing, don't give in It'll come and make you whole again It always will, it always does Love is unstoppable
It's unstoppable Like a river keeps on rollin' Like a north wind blowin' Don't it feel good knowin'
Yeah - You find your faith that's been lost and shaken You take back what's been taken Get on your knees and dig down deep You can do what you think is impossible Keep on believing, don't give in It'll come and make you whole again It always will, it always does Love is unstoppable
Love is unstoppable So, so you made a lot of mistakes Walked down the road a little sideways But love, love is unstoppable
Hey, nocode, been awhile since I have checked on you.
How are those handsome boys? I remember reading S7 showing some behavioral improvement at school/afterschool care, is that still going on? How was your Easter? What's your plans for the summer, any trips planned with the boys? Definately tuck some camping in there soon!
The boys seem to be doing well -- even by xW's own admission (I don't think she realizes how that actually weakens her own case against me.)
Easter was good but quiet; I didn't have custody of the boys Easter weekend, but I saw them briefly at church. I can be thankful that xW is making an effort to get our S's to church at least when she has them.
I did have an interesting movie night last Friday with other stragglers from our bible study group. I say "stragglers" because the others from our group not present had families and other holiday plans to attend to, leaving us to fend for ourselves. In the end it was just me and two of the young ladies from our group watching the DVD of Slumdog Millionaire together. Strange movie, BTW. As usual we had a good time with a lot of good conversation too.
Otherwise it was, as I said, quiet.
I keep sparring with xW, however. She keeps at it occasionally, and I think this is just the way she's going to be. Once I think things have quieted down, she is going to again start something up. The other day I called her on a very blatantly petty criticism she had leveled at me, basically accusing me of horning in one her time with our S's. I hope she's gotten the sincerity of my reply to her and the message that she is going too far, finally. But I won't hold my breath.
It's funny you mentioned camping, Lwb. I have been trying to get the paperwork and other requirements in order for (a) S8 to participate in Cub Scout outdoor acivities, such as the Boy Scout Day Camp being held this summer as well as the monthly camping trips with our pack, and (b) for me to be able to participate with him where necessary/possible. In both cases we have to have our medical records in order (don't you just love our legal torte system?) And I have been trying to make sure both our physicals and our immunizations are up to date. This is going to be an annual effort now, it would seem. Unfortunately, while S8 is all caught up on all his shots, I am in arrears. It turns out the physical I took last Fall was not complete and did not cover everything. On top of that most of my vaccinations are out of date. (I can't believe it's been over nine years since I went out of country, to Brazil, which was when I last made sure I was caught up.) The most critical booster I needed, according to the Scouts, is the Tetanus vaccination, so along with a full physical they gave me the booster for Tetanus.
I have a funny (sort of) story about my visit to my doctor's today. My physician's clinic is very active in helping orient new interns, and I don't usually mind him allowing one of these interns to take the lead in any examination. I almost always see his chief PA anyway and he always seems to have an intern in tow.
Today they asked me if it would be okay for the intern to perform the exam entirely, to which I agreed. However, there turned out to be a couple of problems with this, as it turned out. First, the intern was a fairly attractive young female doctor, which is not so bad even if she's going to be poking and prodding you as they do in a normal visit. However in this case this was a full physical, including checking my prostate -- I won't say anymore, just leave it to you to figure out how discomforting it was.
Let's just say, not even my xW was ever that intimate with me!
I'm chuckling about it now. And I can tell my family that I am meeting new ladies all the time... har, har...
On the other hand, I think my xW's lawyer might be very interested in getting me into just such a compromising position as I was in today, if not worse.
I wouldn't worry about your ex wife at all. There is no judge that is going to take those kid's away from you even if your wife files something. There is just no way. You sound like such a great dad. Your kiddos are lucky! I am curious though did you use the fact that she commited adultery at all through your divorce. Have you ever threatened her with that at all?
She didn't seem to, but I was. What was quite disconcerting for me was that she actually seemed just a bit too matter-of-fact about it, even for an intern. But then I guess they get to see it all... from all walks... I guess she was only slightly embarrassed because of my own demonstrable embarrassment.
I am curious though did you use the fact that she commited adultery at all through your divorce. Have you ever threatened her with that at all?
I'm not sure what you mean about using this against her. I have told her in the past that I know of and have evidence of her adultery. But she continues to deny it even to my face, and even in the face of damning evidence, considering it just a matter of opinion how I characterize her actions as infidelity. And since we reside in a no-fault state, her guilt in being unfaithful would only bar her from being able to seek spousal support and has no real bearing in a custody battle. It certainly counted for naught in our D.
Since she will outright lie to my face about her adultery, her inability to so much as accept her culpability in destroying our R has made reconciliation pretty much impossible. It's not that I won't forgive her -- I have, constantly and continually -- it's that this is too large an obstacle for her to be able to help herself or to allow herself to grow spiritually. Self-delusion and denial keeps us from finding the truth. And as Jesus said, the truth will set you free.
Sadly, my xW is stuck. Locked in a prison of her own making.
