Rough and Ugly Four Months going on LIfe

[MsMelancoly]

Hey Kenn, I know that. Keep venting away - it's good for you. We are all in the same boat here so to speak. You went to bed when your daughter did - I went upstairs with my old sick cat instead of w/my H. Change some parts of the sitch, but still similiar issues.

Did your W give up some control & you took it over (instead of sharing)? Common issue here it seems. From my 1st DBcoaching session the main points were motivating my H's behavior: power & control struggle, attention, revenge & inatiquacy.

I suppose it is true that women don't want a weak man. But when you fall in love, that is sometimes overlooked. Do men want a strong woman?

I haven't been M that long - so I can look back though the stages w/my H and see how my dating, my gf/bf R & how my M w/my H slowly changed. How control & the R slowly shifted. It all comes down to lack of good communication (which includes really listening) & bending towards the others needs sometimes. But instead sometimes we hint instead of really saying what we want. All is a deliciate balance, pleasing yourself and your S.

I think I'm rambling now .....

But you have found & taken control of your happiness, your W seems not to yet. It takes awhile for the WAS. It seems many of the WAW are very angry, hurt & all blaming. Maybe it has to do that we women are more emotional. While the WAH are guilt ridden, angry at themselves & avoidant.

Like I said before - your W has a lot to process. Not just your recent personal changes, but what you said in your convo as well.

Hang on for the ride. BTW - did going to disneyland & riding so many rollercoasters - help you / prepare you for this ride??? (Ok, I'm kinda joking here - sad - yes, but true)

Keep your PMA going!!!