Just some thoughts here. I feel really lucky and blessed to have the IC I have. He started out as our couples counselor and that is primarily what he does and he wants couples to stay together but he doesn't want it to happen at the expense of the individuals involved. He is the one who introduced me to DR and to this site and they have saved me from myself. Something he said early on in this I now truly get and believe. He said that going through this process while you may want to save your marriage you need to ensure you save yourself. Sometimes they coincide and you can do both but sometimes you have to choose and you should always choose to save yourself. Why save a marriage only to be miserable or lose yourself in it? These words are so true and is what I am living by now. I can save myself. I can be the best man I can be for D3 and me. Maybe the marriage can be saved and maybe not but I truly can be and I will be. I hope anyone who reads this takes that to heart because I do believe it's the way we should approach this.
