FLTC, from what I gather your wife is not able to spend "the marital assets" at will.....that is a good thing (even though it's frustrating to you right now). Otherwise, she probably would spend it all on herself. I hope D17 is doing better now that she is back in treatment. I can't imagine what life must be like for her. How is D18? College still going well? And your son? (can't remember his age). Busy with hockey??? I hope gym woman is continuing to keep you sane!
The divorce process IS the pits!!! I can truly say it was a relief once the divorce was actually over. I still have my downs, but nothing like I felt while we were "negotiating"! Hang in there! I gave up too much....don't let that happen to you!!!!!!!