G, I know how hard it is for someone who hasnt suffered from depression to understand it. If your h is really in a depression, believe me when I tell you, it takes effort just to get out of bed. You want to help yourself, but it just seems to be too hard to do.
Please believe me when I tell you that it is an extremely difficult thing to go through. He has to go through it. And at some point, he will have to do the work he needs to. But you cant hurry it along.
It is an extremely debilitating illness. But that doesnt mean you have to take it on yourself. He needs to figure it all out on his own. It took 6 years for me to find the right combination and doses of meds. And it took 4 therapists to find the right one.
I know it is so hard for you to understand. But try to move forward with your life. Your h knows that you are there for him. Now you need to let him figure it out on his own.
