This is another place where I am stuck, Jack. I am trying really hard to treat him as if he were a new guy I am interested in. With all of the baggage, well, I tend to assume the worst. So, I am vague. "Maybe we can see that movie.." instead of "Want to go out on Saturday night?" lessens the chance of outright rejection.
This is a case of would I be better off ripping off that bandage? -In other words, would I be better off getting the straight story (perhaps rejection)? The thing is, for him it would be a rejection for that night, with the possibility of doing something at a later time. For me it has turned into "Well, if you don't have the time for me, then I don't need to talk to you EVER AGAIN." Yeah, I'm working on that black and white thing.
I am trying so hard to build the friendship and the communication. It is going to take time. Of course he isn't going to commit to me before that (if ever). So,I rely on vague to keep me on track for the time being.
I really don't know if it is right or wrong. It seems to be what I need for right now.
