snodderly I havent been to his home in a long time. Yes I did look at her picture on her myspace. He doesnt have one that I know of. Dont worry, I will not put myself in that place again. He wouldnt have even got the protection order the first time except he got mad at me for telling him I was taking him back to court. So he said something like you will pay for saying that.
I am however glad that he is going to spend some time fishing with my son this weekend. Thats always a good thing. I think she will probably end up being jealous of our son. Dont ask me why, its just a feeling.
What the hell are you trying to accomplish right now?
How is sharing her information here being helpful to you?
All it is doing is adding fuel to the fire.
Stop trying to recruit other people to take your side.
This behavior is a little borderline..........
BND I am NOT trying to recruit people to take my side. At least that wasnt my intention. I was venting and, well, I dont know why I put that up there. It wasnt to get you all upset though. Borderline? What the heck, borderline what? Because Kimmie asked to see her pic? I so wish you would stop jumping to conclusions on me. I appreciate your help, but sometimes you assume something when I dont even know what the heck you are talking about. I DID NOT mean to offend you or anybody. I dont want anyone to take my side. Most of you live miles and miles away from me, I dont see where taking my side would do me any good. Once again no intention of anything.
BND you were one of the threads I have been reading and you had it very hard to. I dont understand why you get so upset sometimes. Is this what people did with you when you were going through this? Again I dont understand the borderline comment. Please explain. I hope you are not going to say I am a borderline stalker, because I am not stalking her. If by looking at her myspace once in a blue moon is stalking, well then maybe I am. I had stopped looking until the he told me he was proposing to her, and I will stop again.
Also, do people not share info on here, because I had no idea that they didnt. I have read many things on these boards and I wouldnt have given that a second thought. Maybe I should have saved that info for facebook.
So do I. I live in the Eastern Part. Renee, as far as what you have been doing in regards to your XH, it does seem to be a bit obsessive. Its a rough thing when someone walks off and leaves you, believe me I am very much in tune with that! I got left with 2 little kids 4 and 5 years old, I understand fear, anger, resentment, all of the emotions that go along with this. Renee, I got to the point that to even THINK about her made me sick to my stomach! I mean that litterally! I honestly never what to speak to her again, I truly mean that. She has called me at home, work and cell. I refuse to take her calls, we are divorced, have been for 2 years, she got what she wanted, she needs to grow up and accept it. Anyway, the point I am trying to make here Renee is this; You cannot continue to obsess over this man, from a legal standpoint, you can get yourself into trouble f your aren't carefull, and belive me these people WILL DO IT! MLCers will do ANYTHING to hurt you, don't think for one second they won't! I advise you to start going out, doesn't necessarily have to be a date, but go out with people and do things. Renee, the more time you have on your hands, the more you will think up of things to do, like looking at the picture or what not.
You are still way too wrapped up in the drama, YOU need to detach from all the drama. Stop looking and talking about the ow, let it go, let him go, you will not heal until you get a life of your own.You are divorced , you are not married to him any longer.As far as venting, people can read you like a book, they can see that you have not begun to detach. Detach, get a life for YOU. Have you seen a counselor.It can help, alot.
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You are still way too wrapped up in the drama, YOU need to detach from all the drama. Stop looking and talking about the ow, let it go, let him go, you will not heal until you get a life of your own.You are divorced , you are not married to him any longer.As far as venting, people can read you like a book, they can see that you have not begun to detach. Detach, get a life for YOU. Have you seen a counselor.It can help, alot.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
Don't feel bad, Sunshine. I certainly was not the first one on this board to run over to myspace to look at her picture, and then comment to you about her. What's that all about? Oh, I get it. There are different rules here for Kimmie.
Sunshine, you are not the only one here who has ever snooped, acted a fool, etc. In fact, there are posters on this forum who have acted far worse than you, so again, please don't feel bad. You have been traumatized by the suddenness of your D and it will take time to get over this. And there are posters here who are still stuck after three years, four years....well, you get the idea. It will matter until it doesn't.
If you are the least bit inclined, read my thread in Surviving Divorce. I was wigged out and couldn't see that there really were good things waiting for me once I GAL.
You could start a thread over there and see how it goes because the posters there are D'd, like you and me. It might give you a different tack to take and you can always still post in MLC too.
Until you learn to let go, you can not move forward. I hate to see you torturing yourself like you do.
Why don't you set yourself some goals. Pick 3 things you want to do for yourself and post them on here. Then it will give you incentive to do them. Once you get those 3 goals done, then post 3 more.
Also, put a rubberband around your wrist. Everytime you start thinking about your xh and ow or want to snoop, snap it. I bet you learn real quick that you don't need the hassle of having them on your mind so much. I used to do this when I had the urge to call my stbx. Believe me, after a few welps on my wrist I stopped even thinking about calling. Once you learn to let go, life does go smoother.
Like I have said, I know somewhere inside that confused, upset woman is a strong one. You can do this. Let go of the past and work on the present. Don't even worry about the future right now. Take it one day at a time. Each day you wake up in the morning, look in the mirror and tell yourself it is going to be a good day. If you don't want to do the rubberband thing, then each time you start to think about your xh then find something else to occupy your mind.
First of all my point to you about posting the information about your Ex-Husband's fiancee on MySpace is totally tacky, and shows that you haven't learned anything from anyone here.
You are obsessed with her, or else you wouldn't behave in this manner. Again Renee, I am sorry you found yourself in this situation, it sucks.
There are some here that are bitter because their Spouses left them. These are the ones who will rally around you and feed into your behavior, and encourage you to act this way by bashing your EX and his girlfriend.
There are others here who have learned how to let their Spouses go, and actually forgive them and pray for them.....and ultimately they move forward in their life.
You are no different then anyone else here.
We were all left behind spouses.
Almost every single poster here got the shaft from their Spouse too.
Some in even worse situations then you.
But..you do not read any of the advice offered to you on your thread. The reason I know this is because you are spinning in circles and you keep repeating yourself, over and over.
You ask why I get so upset.....Perhaps it is because it is frustrating for me to see you acting out and doing foolish things that only push your EX further and further away from you.
It doesn't have to be this way.
As I have already told you on numerous occasions, I made every mistake in the DB-book and had to learn the hard way. Yes, people were patient with me but I also got my share of 2X4's.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
