What is the status of your sitch? Has she filed yet? If not it's good that u have spoken to some attrnys and gotten some ideas. Until she files you dont have to do anything. If she does file then the courts will want to know what co-parenting arrangement you to have. Figure out whats best for the kids first. Can you share the house? Don't do anything you don't want to do until you have to. You don't have to do anything unless you have been seperated for 2 yrs other then figure out a schedule for the kids.