You have to remember that she is young, and she has different ideals and values.
IF it is true about her losing her child, then maybe this is a good way for her to distract herself from that awful pain. Planning a wedding and thinking that she has found Mr.Right is her business.
The honeymoon phase only lasts so long until reality sets in.
Renee, let them figure out their own issues together.
You just worry about your own.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
Find a way to stop focusing on your xh and the ow. Focus on what you have control over...you and your kids.
What goes on now between him and the ow is none of your business. Now, explain to me just why you need to be checking our his "my space" page? This man no longer owes you anything in the way of an explanation as to what he is doing w/his life and w/whom. Renee, you may or may not realize it, but you are obsessed w/him and what he's doing and have picked up a number of stalking techniques that could raise some eyebrows if you continue down this road and your xh gets a wild hair up his @ss about you.
STOP FOCUSING ON THEM! STOP TRYING TO FIGURE THEM OUT! Who cares if she's happy flashing her new diamond around at this point...it will get old in no time at all. Who cares if her time is up....she's the one that has to punch his time clock, for all indications. All you need to care about is YOU and YOUR CHILDERN.
I am so sick and tired of this young inmature woman running all over town bragging about getting married to my xh!!!!!!!! I am so sick and tired of her acting like she has won a GREAT prize, when she has gotten a really really messed up man that left his family to fend for theirselves. I live in a small town and she is doing it up right. I want to run through their house!!!!! I want to pin her in a corner and slap her silly while telling her everything bad thing that that piece of work has done to us. I want her to know what a lier he is. How inmature can you be to write your name all over the place with hearts!!!!!!!! I am so angry but they will never know it. Every picture she takes, she puts up that hand, its sickening. Yes I LOOKED at her myspace....I had a weak moment. I hadnt looked in awhile and look what it got me. Anyone else want to look....Go search for "the future mrs lewis" 26 years old 25 miles from london kentucky
snodderly how am i stalking him. I only looked at her myspace page and its private at that, so I didnt see nothing but her picture and that ring. I dont stalk them. I was nosey and looked and got mad about that stupid ring that could be clothing my child. I know he owes me nothing now, but he DID.
Please understand that everyone here sympathizes with you.
It isn't that nobody cares.
When your Husband decided that he no longer wanted to be Married and chose to Divorce you instead of working on the issues together was terribly selfish and heartbreaking to your family.
With that in mind, please also understand a common misconception.
He is not your property. He doesn't belong to you. He is able to make his own choices for his own life whether you approve or not. You are not his Mommy. He owes you absolutely no explanations for his choices. He doesn't ask you for your opinion so please don't share one with him. In regards to your Son, leave him out of it.
There is a common saying that reminds me of you, "Hell hath no fury like a Woman scorned" The more you snoop and stalk, the angrier you will get at the information you will find.
This is what scares me about your situation.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
Renee, You are obsessed by what they both are doing. His so called friends/co-workers have talked to you and you may or may not have responded to their comments about your xh. You've been to his home, you are looking at the my space page and reacting in a very upset manner (for which I can understand). However, if you read up on stalking, you will find that you've been doing some of the things that stalkers do....I'm not saying you are doing it intentionally, but it goes w/o saying, you are still very obsessed by what they are doing and reacting to their behavior and comments. Stalkers follow their prey, they want to know what they are doing and with whom all of the time. Stalking isn't always about being up in someone's face it can be done via the internet, telephone, letters, gifts, drive bys, peeking in windows, having conversations w/friends, and following their every move and being where they are. If you make your xh angry enough, he will slap you w/another restraining order and very well cite you as stalking.
Renee, you may find yourself in a situation, whereby you will be thinking about that ring and it will fester until your anger builds up and you very well may say something that you shouldn't. Your xh is laying low right now and for once in a long while, he's not threatening you w/another restraining order. Stay away from their my space pages. None of us want to see your anger build and then your emotions take over and you say or do something stupid. We've been down that road ourselves and learned that it's not worth the space in your head.
Listen to what the posters are telling you here. None of us want to see you dig your hole any deeper w/your xh. Leave them alone, forget about them for a while. Their my space pages are like an addiction for you. You are curious and yes, nosey....there's nothing at this time to be nosey about...he's not your h any longer and he will soon be her new husband and she his new wife. Some day, if the dust settles, you and your xh could be on a friendly basis in respect to the kids that you had together, but it's not going to happen any time soon.
Please, please let him go for a while. All you are doing is upsetting yourself and getting angry. Find something productive to keep your mind off of them.
I do hope that you will seriously listen to the advice the posters have been providing to you. You've been given excellent advice from some of the best people here. If you do nothing else, print off the advice you've been given and read it over and over again until it all sinks in.
