Thank you imalright. I will try to read your thread soon, although work is keeping me from being on the boards a whole lot lately, which drives me nuts.

Hang in there. It's good to hear your decision to not go with a D, and instead move here to piecing.

My old fearful self....(who am I kidding? I should say my repressed fearful self - I am far from beating this one.) is rearing it's ugly head now and i'm thinking what if something has happened to my H, and that's why I can't reach him? No answer on his cell and no answer at his apt. either. I'm sure he's fine. Got to get control of myself.

I agree with you that this kind of situation hurts children no matter what their ages.

Thanks again for your posts. They help so much.

Mockers2 "Somehow we survive, and tenderness frustrated does not wither." Dennis Brutus, South African poet "That which does not kill us makes us stronger." Friedrich Nietzsche