WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 7

[MrBond]

"She then snuggled her back/bottom against my back/bottom."

This isn't snuggling. Snuggling is when there's a certain amount of intimacy involved. She is showing you that she has turned her back on you. Psychological body language.

"I think my situation is very unusual as my wife has really be trying to maintain an amicable relationship. I think most WAW's just turn angry/mean and leave. Anybody have any thoughts on that?"

She hasn't been maintaining an amicable relationship. She is only doing certain things that and when she feels comfortable doing. When you want to do something, she flies off the handle. Look at how she handled telling your kids about the D. For the WAW's it's not mean/angry. It's called selfishness. See it for what it is.

The WAW can justify it all they want, but it comes down to their needs over yours and everyone else's. That's why sometimes you have to stop them before they get on that train of thought and hit them with the truth bomb every now and then. Validating/agreeing with what their saying is good every now and then, however sometimes they keep going on and on to the point where they really believe that their LBS was the sole person responsible for their unhappiness. That's when you draw the line and say "enough is enough".

That's where your W's mixed messages come in. She's not necessarily cake eating on purpose, she is doing what she feels is comfortable. In this case, she's just doing the physical stuff because she feels sorry for you. Is that what you want? Pity? Of course not. That's why GALing is so important because it lets you get back the confidence you thought was once long gone.