pack the stuff for her and ask her to pick it up, place her things by the door, offer to help put them in her vehicle for her.
- my wife was extremely angry when I originally did this.
At this point I have to believe in our respective situations, that it's all about women testing men, are you going to crumble when she shows anger towards you or are you going to be calm? Act as if you don't care either way, act indifferent.
And after you help put the last few boxes in her car, say bye, look at her in her eyes with an empty expression on your face or even happy and then turn your back & walk away. Remember to tell her to drive safely.
BTW - my wife asked me out for coffee the other evening while her parents were watching the kids.
This is the same lady who has been angry at me forever, thought I was weak, controlling, etc. When in fact I exhibit wussy behaviors that weren't very attractive for the bulk of our relationship. Now I know better, now I do different.
Am I reconciled with my wife? NO
Does she respect me and treat me better than several months ago? YES
To be honest it feels good when that happens, to start re-establish trust & respect.
It's a long ass process, there is nothing that's going to fix this over night.
