Slowly but surely - detach and 180

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So yesterday was hard. I cried a few times. I know that this is a flare up because of her moving out but when I am in it, it's so hard. I did keep myself from calling or txting her at all. She txt me once to ask a question about car maintenance and I responded with a 1 word answer. No other contact. But that one little txt made me feel so much better. Not detachment for sure. .

She had the kids last night and stopped by this morning to get D6 homework they left at home. I thought she would just send them in but she actually came in for about 10 minutes. She had D8 call to say they were stopping by and I was hoping she wouldn't come in because I thought not seeing her would be better to help detach but when after she left I was in a better mood.

We coordinated some kids stuff and she talked for at least 5 minutes about how busy her day is going to be and all the stuff she is going to be doing. After she left I realized I should have acted more happy and carefree so I will work on that next time. Got to put up a good front. =) It should be easier to act "as if" since it will be much less frequent.

I went on Meetup.com yesterday and signed up for a number of groups I liked. Sushi and game night etc. There aren't any meetings I can make in the next few weeks because of my weird work schedule but looks like some next month. Really need to work on GAL. I am also trying to find a bar or someplace that has linedancing lessons that I can go to. I'm not ready to have to dance with someone else so linedancing would be more comfortable.