3. Eat well From Flylady: Plan meals one week ahead, grocery shop with a list and meal plan. 4. Get enough sleep 5. Forgive those who have hurt me during this time 6. Continue to pray, pray, pray 7. No snooping 8. No clinging How do you define this? I think specific actions would help you realize what you are doing, I think we can become clingy at times and not realize it. 9. Act as if I am confident in my H's love for me How do you show that? 10. Continue to develop patience with the children 11. Continue to see my H with empathy, to recognize that he has been hurting too 12. Try to live every day in faith and not live in fear Is there something you can do every day to reaffirm that? Meditate? Read a certain passage/verse in the bible? 13. Keep track of me - looking back to pre-bomb times, I seem to have lost myself somewhere along the way (Having alone time helps - nurture my interests, see friends, etc.)I have started going to a girls night out- we eat at someone's house - with some friends once a month and am planning to join a book club with some of the same girls. . Big one here, put the goals more definite--will join book club, etc. I think we all have lost part of ourselves. Any other things you can add or is this a good start? Sounds like it is, like the once a month dinner, sounds great! 14. Learn new skills - photography class, yoga.
House goals - I have a separate list. Continue Flylady program.
R goals: 1. Date night once every two-three weeks 2. We will go to Retrovaille 3. We will pick a new church and go back to mass 4. Balance of individual, couple and family time How? How do you define this? If you are achieving this what will you be doing? 5. Continue and strengthen new communication skills (discuss without arguing - key here is for me not to raise my voice or be sarcastic; also includes no interrupting; continue to listen and validate) 6. Trust him 7. Show him that I trust him Examples? 8. No R talks initiated by me 9. Speak calmly and softly if/when H initiates R talks 10. Run things through the "filter" before speaking 11. At least 10 deep breaths or put myself in time out before I speak when I feel angry
I think your list is great. The more you continue to be strong and confident, the easier it will get!
Jackie ( I tried three times to change the color of my font, but couldn't get it to work!)
