Since this all started for me, I've asked myself, "What would I advise my friend to do if she were in this situation?" Remove yourself, and look at it as if this is not you, but a great friend you love dearly. Advise yourself what to do. I would tell you, stop talking to him about the relationship. Period. If he needs to "go find himself" let him. Let him know you are at home, but you are going to be doing your own thing and be honest, if that doesn't include dating, then don't date. Go GAL, do some 180's. Write down your behaviors toward him, your reactions in certain situation. Then write down what the opposite would be and start doing that. For example: He comes home and you immediately ask him about his day or what he did, who he was with, etc. Now, when he comes home you say "Hi, hope you had an awesome day...I have some dishes to wash (or whatever you can say to leave the room, nicely--not b***hy like)." Let him know you love him, but if he decides he needs to pull the plug you are going to not only be fine, you're going to recover faster than he will. Be confident, be sexy, be the you that got him to propose in the first place. That you is still there, she's just freaked out.
