Out of the Blocks! Into the Race!

[MichelleLT]

If Smarmy lies and is caught in it, he can be subject to disciplinary actions. Might not lose his license, but would certainly cause him some professional and financial trouble.

Keep us posted on the developments.

[FLTC]

Thanks. Hmmm. Three attorneys in the same room with no adult supervision? Curious. I'm still not sure what having SmarmyLawyerBoss in the office will do. I do know STBX has been very short with the kids and quiet with me.

My attorney said he wanted to use it as "leverage". All I know is that I'm tired of feeling all of the financial pain from this divorce. I want access to the 112K she has in the bank, that I sent home from Iraq. I want to pay tuition for D18 and medical bills, not buy a Lexus. Ughhhh!

Any idea what bringing Smarmster in will do??????

[MichelleLT]

Does your L know that they are most likely both having an A with each other? If so, it seems like the leverage will be moral/ethical.

Perhaps your L thinks he has financial information. Information about her job is obviously relevant to how self-sufficient she is.

Maybe L hopes to intimidate STBXW into being more willing to compromise.

[FLTC]

He does know they are having an affair The intimidation seems to be the answer for me.

[Matilda2]

Anything new?

[FLTC]

Hey Mattie,

I'M REALLY TIRED OF THIS WHOLE DEALIO!!!!!Enough. I want it over. She is SO difficult and angry. She is sitting on 112K in "marital assets" (TRANSLATION: Money I sent home from Iraq)We owe 3K in unreimbursed money to D17's eating disorder clinic. She actually wanted me to write the check for the 2K because she didn't have the money, and it would take "days to get the money from the marital account" Uncle...Chu hoi.....don't shoot......cease fire........no mas.....!!!! UGHHHH! I HATE THE DIVORCE PROCESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!

[MichelleLT]

She's spoiled. She had all that money and control while things were good between you.

She doesn't want to give it up now. But she'll have to, cuz it's part of the D process.

She'll fight it though.

Good for you for not giving in and writing the check!

[Matilda2]

FLTC, from what I gather your wife is not able to spend "the marital assets" at will.....that is a good thing (even though it's frustrating to you right now). Otherwise, she probably would spend it all on herself. I hope D17 is doing better now that she is back in treatment. I can't imagine what life must be like for her. How is D18? College still going well? And your son? (can't remember his age). Busy with hockey??? I hope gym woman is continuing to keep you sane!

The divorce process IS the pits!!! I can truly say it was a relief once the divorce was actually over. I still have my downs, but nothing like I felt while we were "negotiating"!
Hang in there! I gave up too much....don't let that happen to you!!!!!!!

[whatisis]

How ya doin' FLTC?

[FLTC]

Hey wii,

I'm doing OK. STBX is just a miserable person, but has kept a low profile ever since SmarmyLawyerBoss was questioned by my attorney. Maybe just coincidence, which I think is the case.

Things with Gym Woman have been fantastic. We have spent a lot of our free time together since December, and she has been great. As time goes by, I continue to wrestle with when or if I tell her about my total breakdown in 2006 and my attempt to check out by using prescription meds. It's unbelievably embarrassing, humiliating and very, very private. I'm sure she as not told me every little nook and cranny of her past, nor do I want to know it all.

Thoughts, colleagues on Dr. Moreau's Island?