We are having trust issues that are making things difficult. I know this is to be expected, but I feel the need to speak with her to clear the air. I am not sure if this is helpful, but I feel it may make a more comfortable limbo for us both. I have obvious reasons for my trust issues, but would like to let her know that I am in no way invading her privacy. She is having major trust issues, mostly all imagined or projected from her guilt, I suppose. I think it is interfering with any progress I am trying to make in my 180 and distancing. I think she percieves some of the changes stemming from a "ruthless" approach to our impending divorce. I want to reassure her that I have no intention of being hurtful in our eventual settlement.
On another note, I have met with a couple of attorneys and got good advice. One is a pitbull, but knows the game inside and out. She felt I have a realistic chance of stretching this 2 + years, and by filing an injuction against removing the kids from our home, it would force her to stay until final judgement, or leave without the kids, which she would not do. It is a risk because it will appear very confrontational and may make for real hostility. She is the best, I am told, but very pricey. Question: I am viewing the expense as a small price if it can extend the status quo for 2 years and give us time to potentially reconcile. Should I separate the 2 things and not factor emotion of trying to save my marriage into the decision of who to hire as an attorney? Do I try to play soft ball to send the message that I care about her and do not want to see her hurt in this, but thereby risking a less lengthy process?
