Today went smoothly. W was all happy/smiles when I handed her the tax paperwork, child support check (might be the last one hopefully), and told her that the breakdown of the return was inside.
D1 was cute this morning, one of the workers had done her hair up in pig-tails. We played for a bit, and when I went to leave she said "da da" and started crying. I hated leaving like that, but I'm glad that she knows me even though I only see her 15-20 minutes each morning and for 7 hours on Saturday.
Feeling better this morning. More detached emotionally. Going to meet with IC tomorrow, and am sure that will go well. Still depressed to a point, but going to work on getting back to the gym or something.
Still no response from W's attorney to my motion. I just find it odd that nearly 2 weeks have gone by without a response. They were playing in bully mode starting off, but now seem to be operating from the fetal position. Not going to get overconfident, it is possible they will file something as a surprise before the hearing, but who knows?
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
You've indicated that you feel you've done a pretty good and thorough job of assessment of the situation. What DO you think your most vulnerable area of risk is? If YOU were going to fight you, what area might you attack?
You've indicated that you feel you've done a pretty good and thorough job of assessment of the situation. What DO you think your most vulnerable area of risk is? If YOU were going to fight you, what area might you attack?
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The one area that seems to be recurring in any legal drama is an incident where my xW called the police and I was arrested on DV charges. This was in 2002, yet I still got full custody of my sons in 2004 and terminated xW's parental rights in 2005 - which always seems to nullify the charge - but it keeps repeating anyway. W's attorney has already stated she knows about it, I assume hoping to bolster their claims of abuse (non-existent), but I don't see it as a problem.
That is the biggest 'true' thing that can be used against me. According to my W's fault-ground filing, she is alleging "mental and physical cruelty" but there are no witnesses/evidence/etc. of anything except her. The only police call made in regard to anything was by me the night of our separation because she "flipped out."
Lots of the "allegations" coming from W's family that I can tell would have absolutely no impact on custody. I.e. didn't wash enough dishes, didn't help enough, etc. which completely gloss over the fact that I worked from 8-5 and took night classes from 6-8 every single weeknight last year.
Most every "abuse" allegation has disappeared like smoke & mirrors. W's story never stays consistent. Regardless - I put some of her allegations in my journal/affidavit to go ahead and put them out as being ridiculous. They even floated the idea of accusing me of molesting D1 until their attorney shot them down.
Their lack of a response may have to do with some of my charges.
Just a snippet from my affidavit:
Originally Posted By: AFFIDAVIT
On January 6, 2009 I approached Plaintiff with my concerns of her behavioral and emotional changes since the death of her father. I offered to support her in counseling, and requested she make a doctor’s appointment. Plaintiff erupted violently, exclaimed “I don’t want to hurt my baby!” and began screaming that her feelings were my fault, stating “I’m not going to take happy pills to make you happy!” Plaintiff left the home for forty five minutes to an hour and then returned to pack bags. Plaintiff screamed and accused me of being abusive and stated that I had tried to drown her. I just looked at her dumbfounded and she said “You don’t remember? One time I was in the bathtub and you yelled because the phone was ringing.” I asked her “How is that trying to drown you?” and Plaintiff got a confused look on her face for a moment, and then flatly stated “Well I thought you were going to drown me.” Plaintiff then abandoned the marital home, leaving me with all three children.
-snip-
Since our separation, Plaintiff has exhibited multiple instances of extreme and unfounded paranoia, short but turbulent temper tantrums, shifting moods, erratic and impulsive behavior and decision making, has expressed an inability or unwillingness to recall events as they occurred, has made false allegations of abuse, and has refused to discuss the future of our minor child with me.
-snip-
The Plaintiff was under the care of a mental health professional sometime between August 16, 2003 and December 23, 2003 because of her self-mutilation and suicidal thoughts. This care was orchestrated by Plaintiff’s mother. Plaintiff expressed in her online journal a desire to hide her self-mutilation from the professional so that she wouldn’t have to go to a mental hospital.
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The Plaintiff mentioned suicidal thoughts, self-mutilation, and a longing for death multiple times in her online journal, from October 7, 2003 as far forward as May 7, 2005 – long after she was no longer under the care of a mental health professional. These journal entries tended to revolve around the breakup of a relationship, or the loss of a loved one. Plaintiff is currently going through this divorce, and recently lost her father in September 2008.
And some fun snippets from her journal:
Originally Posted By: JOURNAL
“I really feel like dying and just going to heaven with my cousin and friends who are there. Though they say you won’t go to heaven if you kill yourself.”
-snip-
"I want to bleed, show the world all that I have inside, I want to show you all the pain"
-snip-
“Sometimes I feel like I wish I would have died in the wreck. I have already told my mom, dad, and brother, also some of my friends that I wish I had died. I don’t know why I think that. I just get really depressed.” She wrote “I just feel like I am going back to my old self. I don’t want to, but it’s hard to not. Going back to my old self, means being depressed all the time.” She wrote, referring to her counselor, “I hope my mom doesn’t send me back to the psycho lady. She scares me.”
-snip- When her mom refused to let her go see a movie with me: “My mom really must want me to die. Because this really is killing me. I always lose people I love. Either they die, or I just lose them.”
So... I've got a 450 page printout of her journal with a lot more where that came from. They have no idea that I have that.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
Yeah her attorney's cookie-cutter slam-dunk case is taking an unexpected detour.
In case they wonder why I'm so confident and care-free all the time it is because I know what they have on me - and they have no idea what all I have on W.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
In a "best interests of the child" case unless it was illegally obtained I can basically admit anything into evidence.
One-party consent to recording here, running my own video, journaling, and using my computer expertise to obtain any evidence she has online. Wrote a computer program to archive/format the journal and had a PDF created and took it to Office Depot and had 3 copies professionally bound ($80). Took a highlighter and created an index for the attorney.
I've dedicated dozens of hours to building evidence and collating it for easy understanding for the attorneys/judge who may have shorter attention spans.
I'm very focused and very intent on accomplishing my objective.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
You can see, I'll never be in as advantaged a position as I am now legally. Best to go for the kill if she wants the D. I suppose I should be thankful it happened this early so she didn't poison D1's mind first.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
