I am in the same boat as you, seperated and she only communicates with me either about the children or about the quick divorce she wants. I never knew the bomb was going to be dropped, but reading Michelle's WAW piece made complete sense. Unfortunately, the last paragraph does not help as my wife never wanted counselling, it was quickdivorce.com. She trys to pick an argument but I do not rise to it, so she then changes tack and runs me down for all my past transgressions which are the same as yours - emotional neglect, unloving, selfish which I validated. She also believes I never loved her, but again I not rise to the bait. This is as tough as anything I have ever known, I am trying to lovingly detach, but she called me today to tell me she is buying a mobile phone for my daughter so that if I want to talk to her or my son I do not have to ring her mobile, as she sais we will only get on each others nerves if either of us has had a bad day. The fact is...she is detaching from ME to the point where she does not even wish to converse on the phone.
I hope your sitch does not get to this point as our relationship seems to be slipping further away.
Bomb dropped: 19/12/08 Me:48 WAW:41 D:10 S:6 Married: 15 years
