Thank you Creed for your kind words. Yes I believe I AM detaching more every day. You know people can tell you to detach a million times over but it is something, for some reason, that has to be learned by yourself. It would, however, be so much easier if we could just listen to what people here are trying to tell us and put that advice into action alot sooner. I am just now "getting" what people have tried to tell me when I first found this site weeks ago. Why i have to be so hard headed is beyond me. I think the problem is we refuse, or at least I do, to believe that WE cant fix things on our own. LET GO is very key and VERY hard to do when that person has been your very breath you breathe every day for the last 20 years. I was forced to almost give up my "addiction" (and that is what it was) to my h almost cold turkey. He gave me no warning and divorced me almost immediately. It scared me to death. I felt like the breath had been taken from me. Shortly after I found this site, so in all honesty I didnt get the chance to DB like most here have, I was cheated. I do believe my xh has made the worst mistake of his life. Whether he ever realizes this is unknown. I loved him with everything in me. He now lives, and is marrying after only 3 months, a young woman who controls his every move from what I have been told. (He did not leave me for this girl, he was talking to someone else and that didnt work out so he settled for this one.) (He actually said "if you spend enough time with someone they grow on you") I dont know how long this will last, because this is NOT the man that lived with me. He would NEVER have been controlled by anyone, in fact, he said, when he left, he was tired of answering to people. Whatever happens I will Survive. I will be OK.
