Yep, this is going to be the hardest thing you have ever done. Keep posting here, and we will support you. Just remember, if he works at this as hard as you have, you could have a relationship that most will never have. When you go through something as horrible and awful as what you have, it allows you to move to another level. Most people never get to it because they don't address the issues to begin with ("We're really great, we never fight, and we are happy.") or they DO address the issues, or something bad happens, and one of the spouses give up. It really does take two. Most of the stories in DB are where the other spouse has given up. YOu can do everything right (even do the Love Dare where it IS all you), but if the other spouse doesn't ever do ANYTHING, nothing can happen. I pray that your husband continues forward in repairing your marriage.
