In fact, you have made me think here Ali , that before the last few months when things got bad it wasn't much of an issue about me being controlling. In fact if I do any of those magazine tests I am always the 'laid back gf'.
The going away thing came up once and I said no, mainly because we were broke and I hadn't had a holiday for a year and a half so if he was going to go skiing I wanted to have a break too. But when he started pulling away from me was when my need for control came to the forefront. I guess it is a natural reaction to everything seeming so out of control. I hope all this DBing is helping recognise potential contentious points and dealing with them before they become an issue and helping me get back to the person that we were before any of this stuff happened and being a better person. Because when all this stuff happened I really changed and I need to get past that.
I need to let go of those last 2 months as the way our relationship worked as clearly that was when our relationship did not work! If it had been prior to that time and we would have had the money then yes I wouldn't have minded at all.
, that before the last few months when things got bad it wasn't much of an issue about me being controlling. In fact if I do any of those magazine tests I am always the 'laid back gf'.
