...but why would you get annoyed? You've been apart since Oct 2007, he has had another gf since then (sorry again!...) and now lives with her.. he's not yours and as Jody said, you can no longer assume any exclusivity of an R with him.. he has someone else in his life right now...or did you mean he went with her?
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..yes its not really acceptable to stifle a partner and NOT let them go away for a couple of days with friends due to your own insecurities.. if you dont let someone be themselves, they are going to perhaps want to break free of that control? You said you had learnt to not be that way now..thats good, as it doesnt make for a healthy R hey, or happy spouse (either way).
Yep, totally realise that which is why I 180'd. Breaking old habits and all that...
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As for 180 no 2.. I was thinking about your sitch and it feels like you are still stuck in one of the DBing stages I think, but I'm not sure which..but you havent taken the risk to lay your cards on the table and say, you know what, I love you, I miss you and I am always here if you change your mind.. but I accept you are with gf... or did you do that?? So a 180 could be to actually tell him that you wish things were different? Rather than always be so 'ok' about anything? I'm not saying you should, I just wondered after all this time, whether it would be worth just telling him how you feel?
I believe I did last time we met. If I did as you suggest now Ali he would run for the hills. Timing is key here and the time is not now...
