AmyC you dont offend me anymore. You use to.lol But I know you are trying your best to get my attention. I do talk too much, you are right. I know I need to keep my mouth shut, period.... but was just wondering if in turn it was too late to help with my situation with xh. Amyc I had ONE setback since going dark, well 2 calls so maybe two. I am doing better and still know that I can do even better than this. I realize I have a ways to go and I am honestly trying. Sometimes I just get the urge to find answers. You know I look back to when all this started and I remember thinking there was no way I could go more than 3 days without talking to my xh. 3 days was a lifetime. Now I am up to a month and going! I WILL BE OK.