You could be speaking in a soft voice while setting butterflies free on a warm spring day and a MLCer is still going to take offense to it.
In a not so nice nutshell, you need to mind your business and leave your ex alone for the entirety of your foreseeable future. I know things happened fast for you and it is hard to comprehend but he's not your business anymore. Your opinions are irrelevant and so is the fact his actions have offended and hurt you. By throwing that in his face, you are virtually ensuring that he will never regret leaving.
Renee, I understand your hurt and I believe you anger is righteous but you need to pray for the grace to keep your mouth shut.
I know I have said things in the past that reinforces his behavior and reason for leaving. I also know that statement I made may have also ensured him, but in all honestly is it too late to try and correct what has happened and what I have said. I mean regardless, is he ever going to think differently of me? I guess what I am trying to say is....is it too late to keep my mouth shut for any future we possibly could have? OR have I instilled too much in his already messed up mind?
I'm REALLY not trying to be mean but could you just shut your mouth for the sake of it instead of with an ulterior motive? You need to do this if for no other reason than you talk too much. I am also very wordy and constantly have to rein myself in so I'm not attacking you. I'm calling you on something that I recognize. Heed my sincere warning and put a cork in it. Unless you shush so the man can make his way down the road to hearing his own thoughts, nothing will ever change, least of all his opinion of you.
Additionally, and as a rule, actions speak louder so please MYOB and get a life. Also, if you're constantly jabbering and trying to figure out, analyze and strategize, you wouldn't even hear the voice of God if it boomed from Heaven and told you to build an ark, much less a quiet whisper from the Holy Spirit. So there are many good reasons to be quiet and be still. And finally, there's a funny thing on facebook bumper stickers - it says "Silence is golden. Duct tape is silver". So keep a roll of duct tape on hand for emergencies
