I've haven't always agreed with you, but I've always read your posts with a lot, lot of interest. And you have been one of the more generous posters on this board in offering your help to others. If anyone has a stack of positive karma in their corner, it is definitely you.
I am really, really sorry that you are at this point, but you seem pretty clear-headed in what direction you should take. I'm not worried about you, but I do care. I hope you accept this hug, cause hugs are always a good thing. (((Puppy)))
I don't know what it means to be with someone for 20 years (you should be proud of that), but I have made a study of love and sex the past year, in trying to understand my own situation and why? why? why? does love seem to go sour after a certain time.
Yep, we all have different backgrounds, different capacities for love, different psychological...difficulties. Truly, I think the people on this board are some of the most psychologically healthy people in the world, and they were attracted to and loved some of the least. Makes sense, right?
We are looking for those that are different than we are, to have children that have the most chance for survival because they have something that we lack (a touch of insanity, perhaps ;)). But biochemistry doesn't serve our emotion need for family and bond, and so I'm posting this link for you, maybe it'll help in your next relationship? I'm also posting it on your thread because you have so many friends here that it might help one of them. All I know is that it's helped me come to terms with why love dies, and what you can do to keep it from dying (and yes, it is through sex. ;))
