Speaking only for myself (remember not all guys come from the same mold) if I am flirting then I am comfortable, if I am not then I am not. It is also a connection with the person I am with.
You are right that he will probably want things to be back to normal but that is a defense against the inconvience, pain and trouble of doing the work. Just wants to wash the bad stuff away ans forget it. I think you can have both if you just keep the pressure off to remember the past but do remind him you guys need better skills so you don't fall apart again.
that's my oppinion, But hey...remember my wife left me
