Hey cmnm, just wanna throw one thing in here. Going dark for the experienced DBer is a little different in my opinion.
You have to be able to judge the timing on it better because you are (supposed to be anyway) thinking more rationally and not out of fear or sadness.
I think "dark" takes on a different meaning. I like to look at it as more of a state of selfishness. Not contacting because it is what makes us better functionally and we are selfish enough to put our needs above all else.
Spitting out a blurb here and there, throwing out questions, straight talk, and candor, to me these are all signs of our own personal maturity through this process. Things are different for us this far into the situations.
I think you did well, and I think you should continue to (for lack of a better term) do what you want. Say what you feel like saying. Go dark to whatever extent you want.
