I agree, Shay, that it does lessen with time. I have to keep reminding myself of that. Hope you are doing well.
Optimist - I have found that although it is so hard to keep my mouth shut, that has been the best thing in most of these situations. The first time I noticed my H wasn't wearing his ring I asked where is your ring. He said at home (meaning the other house ), and that was it. I said nothing else about it ever. I didn't trust myself to talk about it calmly because of the incredible hurt and rage I was feeling. It is a hurtful thing to do when they don't wear the ring, but it has helped me to try and depersonalize this behavior along with all the others. I will look into some kid work out tapes. Our children like to dance, so maybe it could work. Someone was teasing me the other day about not knowing who some popular new singer is - John somebody? I responded with, "I'm a moose in a treehouse, eating cookies, dancing 'round the cookie jar." Which is about all I've been listening to in the car lately . I did manage to slip in a beatles tape the other day - the kid's favorite is "come together" .
Jackie - Thank you - I certainly don't feel level headed at all - ever. Hang in there, and take one day at a time.
This is off topic, and I hope I don't get in trouble for this, but I just wanted to offer a prayer for the families of the 9/11 victims. I cannot imagine the pain they must be feeling still.
Thinking of all of you.
Mockers2
"Somehow we survive, and tenderness frustrated does not wither." Dennis Brutus, South African poet
"That which does not kill us makes us stronger."
Friedrich Nietzsche
), and that was it. I said nothing else about it ever. I didn't trust myself to talk about it calmly because of the incredible hurt and rage I was feeling. It is a hurtful thing to do when they don't wear the ring, but it has helped me to try and depersonalize this behavior along with all the others. 
. I did manage to slip in a beatles tape the other day - the kid's favorite is "come together" 
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