Julia! I am, just as I was before, blown away by how committed you are to this process. It's weird that I was thinking about the heroics of THAT, just when you started talking about Heroes, the TV show.
BTW, Suresh is my boyfriend, so you guys can have Peter Petrelli.
I don't even see that this is really about him anymore, or your marriage, but you figuring out things with your mom, and you, and XYZ--where you take off from the input of your marriage.
So many people give up on the process partway through and go back to making the same mistakes as before, but you keep peeling away layers.
It is in the shelter of each other that people live.--Irish proverb