Dear In Limbo, I am not feeling well so I won't be able to break down all of your post and respond to it at this time, but I will later. As for him saying what he did about your "changes".....a lot of spouses say that b/c they do not trust the changes or believe they will last or that they are real. So that is something that only time can prove out. It does have to be for "you" or it will not last, that is for sure. In repsonse to him saying what he did about you were only trying to get him back, act as if it does not bother you and tell him to think whatever he wants b/c you are not trying to convince him one way or the other. you are doing this for yourself so that you will be happier in your future.

I will talk to you soon.

Sandi

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!