Is there someone else? There almost always is, and she's certainly displaying all the classic signs.
You sound like a bit of a "pleaser" and a "Nice Guy," who's putting the entire burden of the marriage on himself. I know, cuz I'm one too!
Puppy
Of course that was one of my first fears, having been around here long enough to be aware of how things go. But yes, I am sure there is no other. I have no doubt there may have been thoughts of others, but it didn't get to that point.
Re: pleaser and nice guy - I can be, and should be in some cases. I don't take full responsibility for our issues, but certainly take responsibility for my part in them, which is the only thing that I can change!
Last night we had a tremendous breakthrough, to the point that I think we both very happily recommitted to our M. Gorey details aside, we spent most of the night talking and ML :). For the first time in a long time I saw the W that I fell in love with, and a lot of it was the reflection of her seeing the me that she fell in love with.
Of course, today has been a little tough - our morning was very happy, lots of shared smiles and physical contact, though we were both exhausted. However, old fears die hard, and knowing that we have only taken the first baby step towards renewing our M I of course am very cautious, remember, I have been here before!
So it was hard for me when I did call her today to hear her not really wanting to talk - but she is very tired, and was very busy with household things. I will keep up my PMA, and return home ready to be with her and my family, practicing "As If" things are still progressing well, keeping all of my DB knowledge at hand. Of course it makes me itchy to return home (not that I wasnt already, for positive reasons, but now there is a bit of a nagging fear. need to practice thought stopping here)
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