I get it about her parents (and hadn't thought of it that way - thanks), but how is it bad for me and my kids for them to keep as much of their current routine as possible? (like me coming to their house to make them dinner a few nights a week).
TRUST me, the selfish, vindictive part of me would love NOTHING MORE than to see my wife struggle with trying to juggle everything that I currently do, and for her to be as "alone" as possible -- hopefully that will help her to grow up emotionally, and become more empathetic, if that's even still possible. But I'm not going to put the boys' needs second in order to do that. Is it just that I'd be visiting in HER personal space?
