She sent me a big list of stuff for the proposed settlement agreement. Fun stuff. I'm going to run it by my L today.
I dunno. Doesn't look good. Any db'ing might only be for my benefit and self-worth. Maybe the goal is just remaining friends and getting thru the pain.
She wanted a MC session in a week or two, but I told her I was kinda mixed on it. The last sessions were more of an "exit interview" than anything. We do need to talk but I'm not sure I'm willing to pay $200 an hour to this particular therapist to do it. (see my post in When Therapy Hurts). Maybe someone else, or maybe we just try talking.
I know one of the db'ing techniques is not to talk about the relationship (unless it's a session). I broke that one in a last ditch thing and told her in an email that I will work with her on the settlement but this seemed like a terrible waste. I was disappointed we didn't learn about ourselves and work on our problems earlier. I felt our problems were minor and solvable compared to other D I've seen others go through.
I included the following link:
"Marriage Experts Say to Hang In There. Divorce is a common side effect of ADHD. But getting one doesn't mean you'll live happily ever after."
- No response expected from her and none received.
- I was dim the rest of the day and spent the evening hanging out with friends.
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
