Renee, My xh and I did not have a lot of communication when he left, i.e., only when he wanted something. After the divorce, I didn't hear from him for well over 2 1/2, i.e., I never spoke to him or saw him. Now, he did sneaky things around my yard and had calls placed to my residence and work by others, but my personal contact w/him was nil. I don't have much contact w/him today because he's stuck in the time warp and I do not want to be bothered with a selfish, self-centered, immature individual who created a lot of damage that I ended up cleaning up, both mentally, physically and financially.
To be perfectly honest with you, you've not been dark long enough. Going dark is for you and you only. Your xh may not have anything to do with you for a couple of years and that's why it's very important that you just go on w/your life. You are alone in your mind. You've been so attached to your h and he's been such an integral part of your life that you've forgotten how to just be Renee, not Mrs. or his wife, etc. Renee, if you are alone, you are alone by your own choosing. Get out there and meet people and this can be done walking in park, book store, cafe, etc.
Renee, we all have been right where you are and yes, we took steps, i.e., one at a time to get to the other side.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
